Social & Emotional

Cornerstone

“You may encounter many defeats,
but you must not be defeated.
In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats,
so you can know who you are,
what you can rise from,
how you can still come out of it.”


-Maya Angelou

Social & Emotional​

Cornerstone

The gifted child’s developing mind is not unlike the muscles of a professional athlete. With targeted exercise, the potential for growth is unparalleled.

Sounds too simple… easier said than done, right? We know all about the daunting social and emotional developmental issues that gifted children face – issues that can leave them feeling isolated and overwhelmed. You yourself are likely familiar with some of them: peer relationship struggles, anxiety, perfectionism, low self-esteem, and more.

We want to give you the tools to empower your child. Just as vitally, we also want to help empower you as a parent. Together, we’ll build your gifted child’s incredible mind and resilient spirit. It’s time to become an unstoppable force!

Inside the Social & Emotional
World of Gifted Kids

Traits & Issues

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Versatility

Diverse abilities and versatility; may have interests in science and math with specific topics off-passion, or prefer social studies and language arts with particular researching and reading interests.

Versatility Issues

May get frustrated when not given the time needed to do an activity of project and meet self-expectations; may appeared scattered and disorganized because of multiple projects in the process at one time.

Growth

Their emotional, physical, and social growth is often not in synch. May be have cognitive ability and advanced skills but social/emotional skills may be more typical like same-aged peers.

Growth Issues

Adults may expect the child to act more mature to match high cognitive ability and child’s emotions and expressions of feelings, and friendship making skills may not be any more advanced that non-gifted same-aged students.

Self-Doubt

The child may have doubts that he/she is really gifted. This is called “imposter syndrome.”

Self-Doubt Issues

Gifted kids often fear failure and set unrealistically high expectations. They may avoid risks, stay quiet in class, or feel pressure to always prove their abilities. Test anxiety and fear of letting others down are common. Encourage effort over perfection and remind them it’s okay not to know everything—growth comes from learning, not just success.

Perfection

They may be perfectionistic. Seeking to be the best you can be is a good thing. Working hard and making sure they are leading exceptional academic producers is a good thing.

Perfection Issues

Having unrealistic expectations can cause some students to not begin a project for fear of not getting it up to their standards or others. With perfectionistic tendencies, they may have trouble with time management and have difficulty finishing once started. They may become frustrated.

Sensitivity

Gifted children can have heightened emotional sensitivity. This can help the gifted child sense what he/she is feeling and be more compassionate and aware of others’ feelings.

Sensitivity Issues

Gifted can become overly concerned about problems in the world out of their control. Their feelings can be hurt very easily. Perceived criticism can cause them to be hard of themselves.

Introversion

Gifted children may be introverted, requiring alone time to recharge their batteries.

Introversion Issues

Teachers and parents may be concerned that this needs to be “fixed.” It is not a disability. The child simply needs time for introspection and reflection and gets strength from within rather than from social situations. Teachers mistakenly may believe the child needs more friends, when the child is happy with one intellectual peer as a friend.

Abstraction

Gifted children may prefer to think and work abstractly rather than concretely.

Abstraction Issues

Teachers and parents may be concerned that this needs to be “fixed.” It is not a disability. The child simply needs time for introspection and reflection and gets strength from within rather than from social situations. Teachers mistakenly may believe the child needs more friends, when the child is happy with one intellectual peer as a friend.

Advancement

Gifted children need advanced differentiated learning.

Advancement Issues

Gifted students need a balance of individual learning and group work. Some teachers may not be flexible to allow some choice time for work.

Hindsight

Gifted adults wish they had been better informed about their own giftedness as children.

Hindsight Issues

Even though they may have fond experiences growing up, gifted adults often wish they had more early intervention to increase their own information, awareness, and abilities.

Based on Ian Byrd’s “10 Social and Emotional Needs of the Gifted Child”

Uniquely Trained

You are uniquely suited
to train your child’s heart and mind
to embrace life’s challenges

Adversity is an inevitable part of life and the maturation process, yet some gifted children are better equipped to handle those unavoidable difficulties than others. Why is that? Is it simply an innate trait that you either have or you don’t, like having brown eyes or being tall? And even beyond that, many gifted children experience life’s stressors more intensely than their typical learning peers. Does that mean being gifted is an insidious burden for your child to carry?

These are all reasonable questions because growing up gifted presents unique challenges, but make no mistake, being gifted is a gift that can and must be actuated! Granted, it does take a tremendous amount of effort for both the parent and child to make that happen. As children age and develop, they need an environment to feel appreciated, nurtured, and protected, at school, at home, and in the community. The storms of life will come, and your child’s fight-or-flight mechanism will instinctually engage, but how we condition our gifted children to respond to these cortisol-dumps is within our grasp.

With that said, gifted children commonly struggle with different types of anxieties and over-excitabilities, which makes this slippery slope even trickier. Your child may be more easily overwhelmed by visual-auditory stimuli that floods them with sensory overload. They may have an imagination or curiosity that never stops, even despite their best efforts to turn it off at bedtime. Or they might even love moving for the sake of moving because of their psychomotor overexcitability. Gifted children are more prone to these over-excitabilities and will need help strengthening their inner resiliency to tackle those issues.

The storms of life will come,
and your child’s fight-or-flight mechanism
will instinctually engage,
but how we condition our gifted children to respond
to these cortisol-dumps is within our grasp.

Like any other great skill in life, building resiliency takes work. While pilots and astronauts use flight simulators to prepare for every possible contingency, as humans we don’t have that ability in our daily lives. The best we can do is to train ourselves in how to react while facing the small things, so our brains might have the coping skills in place to contend with life’s most seismic shifts, like moving, divorce, or the death of a pet or loved one.

The best possible place a child can build their resiliency (or growth mindset) is through their education. During the elementary years, gifted children have some incredibly exciting social-emotional opportunities:

Experiencing how effort and persistence positively affect learning.
Accepting mistakes, imperfections, and “failures” as essential to the learning and innovation process.
Recognizing, accepting, and appreciating ethnic and cultural diversity.
Demonstrating the ability to work independently, as well as the ability to work cooperatively with others.
Applying critical-thinking skills.
Engaging in positive cooperation with groups.
Developing effective coping skills for dealing with problems.
Using persistence and perseverance in acquiring knowledge and skills.

Our objective at K5 Gifted is to empower both you and your child with the tools necessary to deftly maneuver through these developmental social-emotional hurdles. A gifted child’s brain is uniquely malleable and hungry for growth opportunities, so with targeted scientific exercises let’s craft the most resilient mental framework possible in your child… one that’s strong enough to grow and evolve across an entire lifetime!

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