Age & Stage of Development
Ages 8 to 11
Now is the time for your child’s personality to truly blossom. They may be craving more independence, but make no mistake, they still need their family as much as ever. This is a time of heightened emotional intensity, which can lead to hurt feelings. Increasingly they become aware of their differences, as they are advancing rapidly. Enjoy this time because middle school is coming… and that can be especially tumultuous for gifted children.
Is my intermediate school child gifted?
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Source: Adapted from “Traits” by Dr. Barbara Clark.
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Intermediate Gifted Kids
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Intermediate elementary refers to 3rd, 4th, and 5th grades.
During this time period, you may see more intensity of feelings. Intensity if a characteristic of giftedness that can be a good or bad thing. Disappointments and frustrations may hit your child harder. Anxiety may rear its ugly head causing your child’s stress feel more like distress. Your child may want to be more independent at this time. He/she may become more aware of differences, especially academically. Some of the attitudes and feelings typically developing kids experience in middle school, may be see in gifted children during this time period. Puberty is happening earlier than every before. Hormonal fluctuations mess with them physically and emotionally. They may start to ask questions about being gifted and what it means. They may not like feeling different. This is an important time for them to find intellectual peers.
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As a K5 Gifted community, we want to offer support to you. You may or may not have found other parents whom you can relate and share concerns and victories, joys, and frustrations. This community is a safe place for you. You may need materials and activities for your child, without a hit and miss system online or in stores. You may feel like your child is getting great general education curricula in the school system but is not getting the challenge needed in logic or advanced math, or reasoning skills through pattern blocks. Maybe, you as a parent need a better understanding of the way may is being taught in schools so you can help at home. Your child needs a very strong foundation in fractions. Success in fractions is a major indicator in the success in high school algebra, that your child will probably take in middle school. Once conceptual understanding of basis skills is missed, there is not a time that classes go back and reteach those skills. Don’t let your child have gaps in their learning because they crave advancement.
As a parent, you can be there for them. You can’t and shouldn’t be your child’s best friend. You are going to always be the parent. Be available as your child experiences those intense feelings. You may hear about social issues and conflicts with friends. Be an advocate in the school system, but instead of handling problems for your child, teach your change to handle conflict. If you see that big problems are occurring that your child can’t handle, seek help from the classroom teacher, school counselor, or principal. Be a team member and let the school know that you want to support them as they support the learning and social emotional needs of your gifted child.